Can you bounce back?

AARP's last issue had an article on the Secrets of Resilient People which I found encouraging. Although scientists agree that there is a genetic component to resiliency and that certain genes may protect you against trauma, it is felt that resiliency can be learned. Research shows that resilient people share the following common traits:

1. They turn to others during tough times
2. They are optomistic
3. They enjoy themselves and are not afraid to be goofy
4. They have strong faith
5. They volunteer and give back to others
6. They do not spend time fighting battles they know they cannot win
7. They exercise regularly and maintain a good diet
8. They turn adversity into strength

Turning to others can be tough but sometimes easier to talk to people you do not know. Support groups can be a great way to help through tough times and situations. People like to help out a friend during tough times as it makes them feel better.

You can learn to be more optmistic. Challenge yourself to spin all negative thoughts into more positive terms. Remember that the cup is half full not half empty.

Be goofy, wonder about things, laugh at yourself. Let your inner child come out and explore. Life is too serious to be serious.

Participate in spiritual activities. Build your spiritual community.

Check out our state website on volunteering there are so many things that can be done. No matter your physical or mental ability there are plenty of opportunities to help others.

Don't whine and complain. Either do something about it or move on. If something is really bothering you write a letter, start a petition or focus on something you can have some influence over.

It only takes 30 minutes of a walking a day to stay in shape. You do not need to run a marathon, bike a gadzillion miles-just walk. Mall walking on rainy days or hot days makes an excellent route. Eating healthy does not mean you have to go on some sort of odd diet. Just focus on those veggies and fruits and cut down ( i didn't say out) those sweets and fats. There are proven benefits of eating dark chocolate (it is the quantity that matters).

Take the painful and let it make you stronger, smarter and more caring. Some of our most important life lessons come from pain-taking our first steps, learning to ride a bike. The loss of my father taught me how to walk beside someone else during their grief. Make those misfortunes into something good.